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Anti-Social Networking

Humans have rightfully self-proclaimed themselves into being ‘social-animals’. And in the time where we all are today, the concept has been taken to an all new level in cyberspace. Voila! Make way for the phenomenal social networking sites.

The day I opened an account on facebook, I had a few things in mind about what I wanted from it. It was about four years ago, when I was naive, and thought that social networking was a great way to keep in touch with ‘friends’.

In hindsight, when I look back to that time, I am completely disillusioned about the whole point of it. I stepped into it to keep in touch with friends- my real friends. Not some creep who’s new in the city and wants to do ‘fraandship’ with me.

We’ve come a long way since the trend started. And sadly, it is now in its lowest phase. As much as many of you would disagree, it is the concealed truth. And here’s how.

First of all, there is just too much information out there in the open. There is nothing sacred or personal about an individual any more. It’s almost as if one does things in one’s day-to-day lives just so that they can go back and update their status about it. I mean seriously, would I really care about a status update which says, ‘I’m bored.’ Or one which says ‘I’m feeling so cold.’? A word of advice, if you’re so bored, then get off facebook and do something worthwhile with your life, and if you’re feeling so cold, go wear a jacket for God’s sake, stop trying to act ‘cool’! People put up the most worthless statuses on facebook. Seriously, if you’re so keen on recording your thoughts and bodily functions, then go get a diary for heaven’s sake! And save me the horror of seeing your utterly futile effort to seek attention, not to mention comments.

And even more insignificant then their statuses are the utterly nonsensical pages/groups people join. Okay do I really need to advertise if I like waking up in the morning and checking my phone? And are you competing with someone on how many pages you join which say ‘I love to sleep’? At this rate there will be a day, when people would make pages saying ‘I like the way the microbe on my body hair gets confused when it’s bleached!’ Honestly, we’re heading towards it.

Of course there are those random statuses and pages we all hate because it momentarily destroys our mental stability. But there is one more thing social networking sites destroy. It’s the special feeling of closeness one shares with a friend or a few friends which gets completely demolished when it comes to the virtual world. Facebok limits your friend list to contain 5000 friends, but in reality, you’d be lucky enough to gather up even five. And frankly it’s not even helping you make new, real friends (read: fraands).

What I’m trying to say here is that if I want a few special friends of mine to keep in touch with me I will do anything in my might to do so. I would not need a virtual catalyst to do it for me. And I would feel so much more special if people actually remembered my birthday and wished me, opposed to just being reminded of it by a virtual calendar, not to mention being reminded to even keep in touch with someone.

Social networking has made figurative puppets out of all of us. Ironic isn’t it? It was supposed to aid a social life. But in reality, all it’s doing is obliterating it. Having put it in perspective, there is nothing you can do on a social networking site which you cannot in real life (except of course, turning your friend into a vampire or throwing a dinosaur at them).

Come to think of it. What is the point of social networking sites after all? I would leave you to think about that while I go and deactivate my facebook account.


Comments on: "Anti-Social Networking" (4)

  1. Mister Reiner said:

    Facebook isn’t for everyone. As you point out, we are social animals and for some, it may be their only social outlet. It does have it’s pros and cons, but I think those are subjective vice objective. As with everything that is as open-ended as this is, it’s bound to be filled with nonsense and other content that doesn’t matter in the bigger scheme of things, but for those who have nothing else, I guess it’s better than nothing.

    • you’ve put it really well.. for some people, this little ‘something’ is definitely better than nothing. but the problem arises when the something turns into their everything! 😉

  2. Social networking may mean different things to different people. While some like to update the status with everything they do, some just use it as a means of connecting with friends that they have lost contact with (like I did).

    Like every technology available, social networking has it’s good and bad points. But then again it is the users who make it that way. Whether you are online or offline, sharing too much information with people you hardly know is never good anyways. It’s just that maybe we are more careless when online.

    • I couldn’t have said it better. The only thing that makes it worthwhile is the fact that you can reconnect with some of your real friends.
      But people really need to keep their profiles clean and practice some self-censorship.

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